Mary Mary has been riddled with personal problems this season on their self titled reality show on We Tv. Their two year relationship with their manager, Mitchell is coming to complicated end (he is currently suing them for thousands of dollars) and the sisters tragically lost their father to stage 4 cancer. In addition, Tina Campbell discovered that her husband Teddy was stepping out on her while she was on tour. She confessed her very private issue to the world and in a decision that shocked many, she has decided to forgive her husband and stay together. Although, her husband is clearly wrong for breaking their vow of marriage, Tina says that this situation has caused her to look in the mirror and take responsibility for her part in their decline. She admits that their issues began when they started having children and she began to put her husband last.
The only up lifting thing that seems to be coming from this season is the launching of Erica Campbell’s solo career! Her first solo album drops on March 25th and her single, ‘HELP,’ is fire! Erica spoke to me about how her new album helped pull her family out of a dark place and why her fans inspire her.
What’s the greatest lesson you learned about yourself because of your husband’s infidelity?
“I Tina assume full responsibility for the issues that I contributed to the relationship. I was controlling, talked too much. And you can never be heard over me because when I wanna talk I got the floor and ain’t nobody gonna get it from me until I give it up. Real talk. That was the way it was and I have to work on myself. You know what I mean? I was selfish. When we started having children it’s like, I forget that I have a responsibility as a wife. And I’m questioning you like, ‘Really, what you want me to do? I gotta baby!’ Even though that’s sometimes what you’re faced with, that ain’t the right spirit to do it in. And what happens is, you’re going on and you’re busy and you’ve got children and you’ve got work. And what happens is your husband is last and you don’t realize that he’s last. And if he has a problem with being last you’re like,’Well, what am I supposed to do? You know that I’ve got a career? You know that I’ve got these babies, you’re the one that got me pregnant!’ ”
“You want your husband to be the man and to take his place, but because ‘I’m a strong woman, I’m a this woman and I’m a that woman’ we busy stepping on our man. Making him feel small. And you know what? I did that. And I take responsibility for that.”
Why did your husband cheat?
“I know that I look good. I know that I’m sexy. I know that there’s not a problem when the doors are closed. I know that I contribute well to my household as a woman and all of that. And that’s not fronting and that’s not lying. I know that. But, when there is a lack of intimacy and there’s distance, how beautiful you are, how much you bring it and how sexy you…that does not matter! Because you want to feel valued and when you don’t feel valued, sometimes you make the choices to go somewhere else where somebody’s paying a lot more attention and that’s what happened.”
Thanks ladies for being so open and honest with me. Be sure to watch Mary Mary on Thursday nights on We Tv and pick up Erica Campbell’s 1st solo album available on March 25th!
Watch the 2 Part Interview Below:
Part 1 How Cheating Almost Tore Tina’s Life Apart:
Part 2 Why Tina Stayed & Why She Takes Responsibility For His Infidelity